Monday, 3 April 2017

how yoga saved my sanity while TTC - guest post by Jamey


Hello. My name is Jamey, and I’m a plan-aholic. I like having a workout plan, a meal plan and I have a planner to hold all of my plans. So when my hubby and I got married in 2012 (so much planning!) we planned to start a family right away.

We were “not not trying”, so this didn’t require as much planning… at first. The first few months my cycles were VERY irregular and OPKs didn’t even work, so it was hard to plan “the deed” (which in hindsight was SOOOO much better, am I right?).  In 2013, we saw our first Fertility Specialist. He was very optimistic with our test results and even said his plan was to get us pregnant within an IUI or 2! Well, 3 IUIs and an HSG later, we switched doctors.  In 2014, our new (and current) RE told me I needed a new plan.  I needed to stop running and to focus on strength training and yoga. I had dabbled in yoga a little but nothing crazy… it didn’t give me that “high” that running did.  But at this point I’d try anything.

So yoga became “my thing”. My new plan had me going to yoga daily, and I started to fall more and more in love with it. So in love, in fact, that only 6 months later I planned to do Yoga Teacher Training through the studio where I practice.  
"Don't Rush the Process" - is my current life mantra :)

Teacher training began in January 2015 and I cried pretty much that entire first weekend (definitely not planned). In one weekend I learned I had been wearing this tough mask to hide the fear and sadness I was carrying from not being able to follow through on my plan of starting a family.  Over the next few weeks of Yoga Teacher Training I realized that I was so caught up in my plan to make a baby that my husband and I were not enjoying our marriage or our time together.  We had all these plans to start a family, but before the family could grow it was falling apart because all the plans were focused on this TTC/IVF journey… beyond that we had no other plans.  

Through teacher training I learned that there is beauty and hope in this journey.  I learned that it’s OK to go off script, or even better, to NOT plan at all.  I was so focused on this plan (that just kept crumbling) that I wasn’t even aware of the pit stops, growths, or silver linings that were available off the plan. One silver lining we recently have been embracing is travel.  Rather than planning our lives around upcoming cycles, we’ve decided that if we can afford to go then we plan on it.


In hindsight I think I would’ve ended up being a frantic, frazzled, and frustrated mom had things gone as planned and we had a baby 4 years ago. I wouldn’t know how to handle life “off script”, which I have learned (thanks to my mama friends) is basically how life goes after baby.  Had I become pregnant right away I wouldn’t have had the patience, empathy or compassion that I have today because I wouldn’t have gone through Yoga Teacher Training. I never would’ve learned more about myself or my hubby if it hadn’t been for this time alone. In this instance I do agree that some things do happen for a reason. (I know most of my TTC sisters cringe at that cliché.)

Yoga shined a light on how I had total control one part of this journey: the way I handled it and what I did with it.  I could sit in my sh*t and complain about it, or I could take the sh*t, throw it on a canvas and turn it into art.  I’ve decided to turn this crappy time into a beautiful one.  All the planning in the world won’t save me or my marriage during these rough patches, but learning to see the silver linings will.


TOP 5 WAYS TO EMBRACE YOGA AFTER BEING A GYM RAT AND/OR CARDIO BUNNY:

1. DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS IN THE CLASS.
Everyone is in a different stage of their yoga practice.
2. YOGA IS CALLED A PRACTICE FOR A REASON.
It’s about progress, not perfection.
3. REMEMBER TO BREATHE.
Yoga literally translates to “union”, so you need to unite your movement and your breath.
4. THE MORE YOU DO IT THE “EASIER” IT BECOMES.
It doesn’t actually get easier… YOU just get stronger ;)
5. FIND A YOGA STUDIO THAT GELS WITH YOUR VIBE.
You may need to try a few studios because there are SO MANY types of yoga
and each studio teaches that type a little differently.

More from Jamey:
"Don't Rush the Process" - guest post by Jamey
"This was my “AHA” moment." - guest post by Jamey

Jamey is originally from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, but after graduating from Washington & Jefferson College in 2004 she decided she wanted to live at the beach. Jamey currently lives in Jacksonville, Florida, USA with her husband of 4.5 years and their adorable pug, Miss Boogers.  Jamey is a full-time Crime Scene Investigator, as well as a yoga teacher and health/fitness coach.  She dreams of owning her own yoga studio one day. Connect with Jamey:
Instagram @james82_ www.teambeachbody.com/jamers3111 and assidjl@gmail.com

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